Imagine looking into the eyes of your woman whilst you are making love to her and bringing her to tears through the medium of pure presence, trust, and love. Aside from the fact that it feels good, from stress reduction to improved sleep and even help with menstrual cramps, masturbation comes with a number of health benefits. Research has also found that masturbation can protect against cervical infections, as orgasms regularly flex the cervix. Another important aspect of sexual experimentation is learning how your body responds to touch, and testing out different ways of touching yourself can be exhilarating. 'Experiment with the amount of pressure you use on your body and clitoris, to see what suits you best,' says Sabat. 'You may discover a new-found sensitivity, or pressure points that you like to be a little rougher with.'

For a woman, however, the road to sexual satisfaction is more winding and with many twists, turns and obstacles. Learning to navigate this road is not an easy task and takes quite some determination, but like most things that are not easy, it is worthwhile .Women are highly turned on by intellect and intelligence in general. They think and fantasize about sex much more than we men realize. Before you even enter the bedroom, talk to her. Make her sides split with laughter, showcase the depth of your knowledge or your skills in a certain area. Most of the time though, if you want to please a girl in bed, you need to mix things up and keep the pace and intensity alternating. Lots of people like to use sex toys to masturbate, with good reason! There are so many great sex toys available these days and with the right tools for the job you can almost guarantee an orgasm:

If she is in her head and feeling self-conscious or even unsafe, even just a little, she will not be able to enter this space. We produce lubricant naturally when we become aroused, so if you feel slippery and wet this is perfectly normal. However if you feel a bit nervous it may help to add some lubrication to get things going. 'Gently spread your labia and use a spot of lube. There are very nice modern ones that increase the sensuousness of the occasion – such as Liquid Silk. But if you don't have any lubrication, saliva also works,' says Webber. 8. Find your pelvic floor muscles While you're experimenting, it's important to feel relaxed and set the mood. 'At this point, as long as you know that you're in no danger of being disturbed, move to your bedroom,' suggests Webber. 'Make sure that it is warm and comfortable. Put on some relaxing music if you like. And just enjoy yourself.'

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Did you know your brain is your most valuable sex organ? Next time you consider self-pleasure, try stimulating your mind before even touching your body. 'Engaging with alternative forms of pornography that start with your brain, such as audio pornography or erotic literature, or even spending some time crafting your own sexy fantasy, can lend a totally new experience to your personal time,' says Sabat. If you're reluctant to watch porn but the idea of erotic imagery turns you on, make your own. Simply balance your smart phone on a stable surface and take photos of yourself. Try focusing on your body, your breasts and your vagina and see how it looks. You could even video your fingers sliding in and out of your vagina or film yourself rubbing your clitoris. Watching yourself can be incredibly erotic and empowering too! But keep your footage safe or consider deleting it afterwards. 23. Arouse your mind Men are straightforward when it comes to sex, and this is related to the fact that we can get hard at the snap of a finger. If you want to become a master of how to please a woman in bed, you need to become a master of innuendo . This doesn’t mean they are less sexual. They are simply more mind-oriented. They are imagining and fantasizing much more than us men. This is why most porn addicts are men and why romantic fantasy novels fly off the shelves into the hands of women. Be flirtatious all day long. Grab her hips and pull her ass against you whilst she is cooking. Give her shoulder rubs. Text her to tell her she is sexy and that you are imagining her naked legs wrapped around her shoulders.