Could her organised, logical approach work even for a more chaotic, spontaneous family that’s happy winging it through life? “It’s such a weird idea, but if you’re like, ‘I want it to be the case that on the weekend we can just do whatever if we want’ – if you don’t articulate that, then what you’re going to find as a person with kids is that when you get up on the weekend, two-thirds of the time you’re going to have a birthday party. It’s going to be, ‘I wanted to lie in a field and be spontaneous but I gotta go to this at 2.30 to 4.30…’” she says. “If something is important to you, you need to figure out how you’re going to prioritise it and, you know… schedule your spontaneity.” At this point, she bursts out laughing at herself: “That should be my tagline. Schedule your spontaneity!” It’s not a bad title for the next book. ‘When can I get a phone?’: in this exclusive extract from her new book, Emily Oster answers the key modern parenting question As for social media, she thinks we still don’t have good enough data yet. Some studies suggest children who spend a lot of time on it are less happy, but it’s unclear whether unhappy or lonely children are driven to spend longer searching for validation online in the first place. “There was one (adult) study somebody did measuring when are people the happiest during the day, and one of the things was people are really unhappy while they’re watching TV, and it was like ‘maybe TV makes people unhappy’. No, that’s what I’m doing when I’m in a crummy mood, I’m tired, I just want to zone out in front of reality TV – it’s not that reality TV is making me unhappy.” Yet screen time isn’t a free for all chez Oster; her children only watch TV before dinner, plus a bit more at the weekend. Clear and consistent rules, she argues, let children know where they stand. CAR SEAT, COT, PUSHCHAIR, STROLLER & PRAM TOY - This highly versatile plush toy comes with a ring that can be attached to any type of pram or cot, as well as to your baby's activity centre

Then there’s the issue of phone screen absorption. I know families who have written all sorts of rules about this: no screens at the table, no screens upstairs, phones plugged in at the house entryway and not touched etc. You may need to think about your own habits, too. In other words, no phone at the table might also mean no phone for you. SENSORY TOY - This baby toy comes with high contrast colours and patterns, ribbons, discovery mirror, busy beads and textured rings to keep your baby entertained while stimulating their senses Emily Fair Oster was named on the flip of a coin. Her parents, both Yale economists, felt it unfair for their children automatically to take their father’s surname: the coin toss determined that Emily and her youngest brother got their mother Sharon Oster’s surname, while their middle brother got her father Ray Fair’s, an unusually radical feminist statement for 1970s America. “They [her parents] were totally into this and of course none of us followed up on it,” she says. “My brothers’ wives both took their names. I didn’t take Jesse’s name, but both of the kids have his name. We’ve regressed.” Yet she has inherited something of her mother’s logical mindset, judging by the elder Oster’s reaction to The Family Firm. “She was like, ‘Yes, good, the data’s very interesting but I mean everybody already knows this is how you should make decisions,’” she says, laughing. “It was said in a nice way, but I was like, ‘No, that’s how you do it.’”Another popular product is the Lamaze Turtle Tunes, an adorable, brightly coloured plush turtle, which plays different musical notes when baby touches the vibrant spots on its shell. Other favourites include the lovable pirate octopus toy, Captain Calamari, and the Night Night Owl, a soft snuggly nightlight. Beyond that, though, have people been adhering to the rules? Does it seem like phone engagement (either social or not) is becoming a problem? If the value of the phone is logistics, has it helped? Maybe you got a dummy phone, it’s never been used, it’s been lost six times, and everyone’s kind of done with it. The follow‑up questions will vary. But no decision of this magnitude should be left without reflection.

A sütik feldolgozásának elfogadásával nélkülözhetetlen és analitikai sütik kerülnek telepítésre eszközére, amelyeket a weboldal megtekintéséhez használ (az "Értem" gombra kattintva mindkét kategóriát elfogadja, vagy kiválaszthhatja a kategóriák közül csak az egyiket a "Beállítások" gombra kattintva). A technikai sütiket mindig telepítjük az eszközére, az Ön beleegyezése nélkül is, mert ezek nélkül a weboldalunk nem működne. To engage your baby with both motion and music, the Pond Symphony Motion Gym comes complete with two music modes. Each mode plays for 15 minutes for extra playmat entertainment. Nélkülözhetetlen sütik Ezek elengedhetetlenek a weboldal és funkcióinak működéséhez, amelyek használatáról Ön dönt. Nélkülük nem működne a weboldalunk, például nem tudna bejelentkezni saját fiókjába, vagy bevásárlói listákat létrehozni. Harmadik féltől származó sütik Ezek a sütik harmadik féltől származó sütik, amelyekről és partnereinkről itt olvashat bővebben . Emily can’t wait to meet your little one and be a first best friend. From her crinkly hat down to her soft velvet feet, Emily has so many wonderful patterns and textures to encourage touch. Lamaze’s My Friend Emily is great for Mum and Dad to play fun role with baby.If you are parenting in the modern age, there will come a time when you will face the great question: “When can I get a phone?” It might come when your child is 10 years old, but more likely five, or eight. It will be followed by arguments such as: “All my friends have got one!”; “If I don’t get one, I’ll never be invited to X or Y or Z”; “Don’t you want me to be able to call you if something is wrong?” Tartalom személyre szabása Ezek a sütik lehetővé teszik számunkra, hogy az Önről rendelkezésre álló információk alapján tartalmakat és hirdetéseket jelenítsünk meg Önnek, hogy a lehető legjobban ki tudjuk elégíteni az Ön igényeit. Ez legfőképpen ahhoz kapcsolódik, hogy milyen tartalmat tekintett meg, illetve milyen eszközzel lépett be az oldalunkra. Something similar, she thinks, is true of screen time and social media. Comparing outcomes for children who watch lots of TV and children who don’t may, she argues, simply reflect other aspects of their family life. More controversially, she argues that the content they’re watching may be less critical than some parents fear: “You should be careful that your kids are not watching things that terrify them or make them upset, but this idea that somehow if they watch a little bit of violence they’re going to turn into violent people – that just doesn’t seem to be borne out in the data.” The real problem with screen time, she thinks, is the opportunity cost; hours spent gaming are hours not spent playing sport, reading or seeing friends. BABY FIRST GIFT - This newborn toy is the perfect newborn baby gift, helping babies through the vital first stages of sensory development. Give the gift of learning with this beautiful girl and boy baby toy.

The routine she and her husband adopted to stop their son dawdling on school mornings (downstairs by 7.05 sharp, a 7.25am “hard stop” to breakfast) may seem militarily precise to some but, she says, her family likes consistency. Yet for all her formidable organisational powers, parenting through a pandemic still tested her in unexpected ways. If the phone has already been introduced, now is the time to reflect on how it is going. One question is about responsibility: has the phone been lost or broken? When I told my daughter about this, her primary suggestion was that the rule should be: if you break the phone, you don’t get another one until you are much older. This suggestion has the flavour of an eight-year-old (and one who is related to an adult who breaks their phone a lot), but it does have a ring of truth.Személyre szabott hirdetések Ezeknek a sütiknek köszönhetően mi és partnereink az Ön vásárlásai, viselkedése és preferenciái alapján releváns és személyre szabott termékeket és szolgáltatásokat tudunk Önnek felkínálni. It wasn’t her first brush with controversy. She wrote in Expecting Better that the occasional glass of wine in pregnancy probably won’t hurt, summarising two studies that showed no difference between the children of women who abstain and those who have up to a drink a day. This ran contrary to official advice that American mothers should strictly abstain for nine months, and led to Oster being publicly rebuked by the American College of Obstetricians and Gynaecologists on the grounds that there is no known safe lower limit for alcohol in pregnancy (she still maintains that overly strict public health advice is likely to be ignored.)