Mīlestībā mums jāvingrinās tikai vienā jautājumā: palaist otru. Jo turēšana ciet padodas viegli – tas mums nav jāmācās. I read ‘The Book you wish your parents had read’ beforehand and I think they go together perfectly. We need to understand our own tween (8-13) history, our own parents style (authoritarian or authoritative) , our automatic reactions based on learned behaviour and figure out what we would like to change about our tween years, before we start parenting our own tweens. We were still children, for all that we thought we weren’t. We were in that in- between place, the twilight between childish things and grown- up things.’ Lost Boy: The True Story of Captain Hook , Christina Henry Do let your tween’s form tutor and whoever is responsible for student wellbeing know if they are feeling very anxious before starting. Often, schools have special settling-in procedures for tweens who they think will struggle.

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Sarah has authored 14 parenting books, translated into over 30 languages, which have sold over half a million copies. She is currently writing her 15th. The early chapters focus a lot on how it isn't hormones necessarily to blame for those changes but the brain and I am already finding this new understanding to be powerful when it comes to how I approach my own tweens. True discipline in society however is rare. Most children today are punished. Punished for being a child, punished for not acting like an adult, punished for being too inquisitive and eager to learn and punished for not having a well developed centre of self control in their brains. The dictionary definition of punishment is: “causing or characterised by harsh or injurious treatment; severe; brutal” . When children are punished no real learning takes place, the role of the child is passive. The goal of the adult is control and conformity. Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful, committed, citizens can change the world. Indeed, it is the only thing that ever has.” Margaret Mead – Cultural AnthropologistTry to buy any uniform needed several weeks before the start of term, so that your tween can wear it around the house, including new shoes (blisters in the first week aren’t fun). If they must wear a tie as part of their new uniform, keep practising at home until they are a pro at tying it. The following are some of the most common anxieties tweens experience before the move to a new school, according to research: Time passes in the blink of an eye. Surely it was only yesterday when that warm, mewing bundle was placed in your arms, eyes fixing on yours with all the intensity and knowing of an old soul who has lived many times before, yet in a tiny body, so fragile and new. Through sleepless nights and weary days, you came to know each other. Your world and your priorities shifted, and you slowly assumed a new identity that centred upon your child. A child who orbited you like a satellite, with you the safety of a home planet and the constant pull of gravity keeping you tied as one. Their dependence on you sometimes felt so very heavy, so all- consuming, and there were days (and many nights) when you reminisced and wished for your carefree past. Sarah specialises in ‘gentle parenting’ (she is often credited as being the founder of the movement) and childism (the unconscious discrimination of children in society).

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Whatever worries tweens may have about the transition to a new school, the two most important responses from parents and carers are, firstly, to listen and, secondly, to empower them to cope with their concerns. The following tips can help with the latter:The Gentle Parenting Book". Eve White Literary Agency. Archived from the original on 27 January 2015.